[ { "chunk": 172, "story": 19, "summary": "The father blesses the match and favours short engagements; the time to size up a partner is before the engagement, and the thing to learn is how they are at breakfast and with a baby.", "predicament": "Someone about to be engaged must learn how their partner behaves in ordinary daily life, not only at their best.", "advice": [ { "move": "propose before you know the person as they are day to day", "outcome": "you complain later that you are stuck", "quote": "Some fellows propose to a girl before they know whether her front and her back hair match, and then holler that they're stuck", "stance": "avoid" } ] }, { "chunk": 173, "story": 19, "summary": "A man should know whether his partner will hear him about expenses and how she is when angry: the noisy temper blows over, the quiet one simmers, and nagging drives a man mad.", "predicament": "Someone about to marry needs to know how their partner behaves when angry or crossed over money.", "advice": [ { "move": "cross the person a little before you commit, to see their temper", "outcome": "you see how they are when angry", "quote": "there's nothing like stirring her up a little now and then to see if she spits fire and heaves things when she's mad", "stance": "do" } ] }, { "chunk": 174, "story": 19, "summary": "The father judges the young woman pretty, sensible and without a fortune to make fools of them; he distrusts women in business, and recalls the picturesque, impractical cottage where he began married life.", "predicament": "Someone starting married life on little money finds that a picturesque home is harder to live in than to admire.", "advice": [] }, { "chunk": 175, "story": 19, "summary": "The young couple took their fun as they went instead of deferring happiness; the father bought a pig to fatten on credit, and his wife made a pet of it.", "predicament": "A young couple short of money must decide whether to enjoy the present or put off happiness until they are better off.", "advice": [ { "move": "put off being happy until later", "outcome": "the later never comes; it is always put off again", "quote": "Don't accept notes for happiness, because you'll find that when they're due they're never paid, but just renewed for another thirty days.", "stance": "avoid" } ] }, { "chunk": 176, "story": 19, "summary": "In autumn the fattened pet pig was butchered, and at dinner the father absent-mindedly offered his wife a piece of it by name.", "predicament": "Someone turns to practical use a thing the household had grown fond of, without warning the one who loved it.", "advice": [] }, { "chunk": 177, "story": 19, "summary": "His wife wept, called him a cannibal and begged a burial; he reasoned her out of an expensive funeral but lost his appetite, and sold the pork at the crossroads store.", "predicament": "Someone's practical decision about a household pet wounds their partner, who wants no part of what it brings in.", "advice": [] }, { "chunk": 178, "story": 19, "summary": "The father prefers to hire husbands rather than women, since a wife makes a man steadier and worth more pay; he will raise the son to seventy-five a week when he marries and stop writing letters.", "predicament": "Someone about to marry learns their employer values a settled married worker above a single one.", "advice": [ { "move": "settle down and marry", "outcome": "your employer rates you worth more pay", "quote": "A married man is worth more salary than a single one, because his wife makes him worth more.", "stance": "do" } ] }, { "chunk": 179, "story": 19, "summary": "Not part of the letters: the father's sign-off, then the publisher's advertisements for other humour books.", "predicament": "No situation: publisher's advertisements at the back of the volume, left inside the last letter by the split.", "advice": [] }, { "chunk": 180, "story": 19, "summary": "Not part of the letters: publisher's advertisements for other humour books.", "predicament": "No situation: publisher's advertisements at the back of the volume, left inside the last letter by the split.", "advice": [] }, { "chunk": 181, "story": 19, "summary": "Not part of the letters: publisher's advertisements for books of verse.", "predicament": "No situation: publisher's advertisements at the back of the volume, left inside the last letter by the split.", "advice": [] }, { "chunk": 182, "story": 19, "summary": "Not part of the letters: publisher's advertisements for children's verse and a series of biographies.", "predicament": "No situation: publisher's advertisements at the back of the volume, left inside the last letter by the split.", "advice": [] }, { "chunk": 183, "story": 19, "summary": "Not part of the letters: press notices for the biography series.", "predicament": "No situation: publisher's advertisements at the back of the volume, left inside the last letter by the split.", "advice": [] }, { "chunk": 184, "story": 19, "summary": "Not part of the letters: the list of titles in the American biography series.", "predicament": "No situation: publisher's advertisements at the back of the volume, left inside the last letter by the split.", "advice": [] }, { "chunk": 185, "story": 19, "summary": "Not part of the letters: the list of titles in the English biography series.", "predicament": "No situation: publisher's advertisements at the back of the volume, left inside the last letter by the split.", "advice": [] } ]